Why Is It Important To Train Your Child’s Mindset?
What does it mean when we say mindset, and how does that affect the way we raise our children?
That word recently surfaced as a result of Carol Dweck’s book Mindset. In it, she explains that our mindset is a key factor affecting our responses to the world. It is the lens through which we judge our experience that ultimately determines our success in life.
Since its release, her book has become an effective tool for self-evaluation, helping people to recognize what holds them back from reaching their highest potentials.
Your Role In Your Child’s Success
Do you dream of your child reaching their highest potential? Of course you do, but the question is how do you help them achieve this? How do you cultivate your child’s mindset to be healthy, strong, resilient and positive so they can live successful and happy lives?
A child’s mindset is a set of mental attitudes they have developed from the moment they were born based on their genetics and environment. Eventually, these mental attitudes become habits that will determine how your child responds to failure, challenges, adventure, friendship, family, and other life situations. It will dictate how they view themselves, as well as the people they encounter.
With this in mind, our goal as parents is to equip them with a strong and resilient mindset so they can chase their dreams despite bumps along their journey.
Three Most Important Factors In Shaping A Child’s Mindset
What are the three most important factors that shape a child’s mindset? First is the image they hold of themselves or their self-image. Second is their environment, what they see and hear. Third is our example. Let’s break each one down.
Self-image is how your child sees himself; if he think he’s good, bad, strong, weak, smart, not so smart, and the list continues. When a child develops a positive and strong self-image, then he can see failures as part of growing up. For instance, he will perceive flunking a test as an indicator that they have not studied enough, instead of questioning his mental capabilities.
Be careful, there is great danger if a child develops a negative self-image as it will limit him from becoming his best self. If he sees himself as weak, he is less likely to step out of his comfort zone and we all know that no true growth happens within that space. It only comes the moment we take courage to expand beyond it.
Such is just one example of the many critical mindset distinction that determine a child’s success and happiness in the future. So as parents, how do we guide our little ones in developing a strong self-image? Here are three simple but powerful ways:
We teach them positive affirmations so they can gradually learn to see themselves as good.
We show them that failure is a learning experience and they should welcome it with optimism.
We give them scripts training them to respond to criticism and judgment from others with positive self-talk.
The second factor is environment. When surrounded by positivity, a child is more likely to hope for a brighter future. This is why we have to put our efforts into cultivating a peaceful and joyful environment in our home that sees failures as opportunities to learn and grow, not as something negative.
It is our responsibility to be proactive in creating a culture that allows children to fail without feeling like “losers.” Instead, we should help them understand that they are “learners” in this classroom called life.
Additionally, we have to be intentional in providing a school and community environment which will help our children unlock their potentials. This may seem daunting especially with how our culture is set right now, but it’s not impossible. It can certainly be done and it begins with us as we create a healthy and happy culture within our own household.
Our example is perhaps the most critical and challenging among the three factors. There is no way around this. You can’t tell your child to be kind to himself if he fails when he sees you calling yourself “stupid” each time you make mistakes. We can’t just preach through words. We have to live it in our actions.
You Hold The Key To Your Child’s Future
Here lies the biggest hurdle of all in teaching our children to cultivate a strong mindset: reflecting and changing our own. This means that this journey is not just your child’s, but yours as well because your mindset will make or break your child’s well-being.
How we choose to invest in our child’s mindset determines the quality of their experience and is therefore, a worthy work that deserves plenty of attention. Be diligent. Be intentional and watch your child soar to greatness!